My Enneagram - what's yours?
So I kept seeing the word Enneagram popping up on social media and wondered what on earth is that? It's the latest personality test. There are free versions online and basically it tells you what kind of person you are, your strengths and weaknesses. There are paid tests which give thorough detail on your results. I quite like doing personality tests - its like a self assessment so I know what my weaknesses and strengths are. It helps you to understand who you are and what to
Modern day philosophies
I have really enjoyed reading this blog by Jille McCormick. In particular this quote really resonated with me, which has inspired this blog post on modern day thinking, ethics and philosophy. It all sounds very intellectual and maybe you're thinking that it doesn't have anything to do with your current situation but actually just like politics, it does impact on your every day life whether you are aware of it or not. Jille McCormick I can be anything I want to be. I grew up i
My weekday early morning routine!
How does your house run in the mornings? I often wonder how everyone starts their day and what they fit in before they go to work/school etc so today I thought I'd share mine with you. My children are all at school age (15 - 8 years old). 6.45 alarm goes off - I will get up at this time if I washed my hair the night before, if not I will snooze till 7. I wash my hair typically every 1-2 days and during the week I prefer to wash it the night before, dry it and straighten it in
People Pleasing or Serving?
Within the church context we are called upon to be humble servants of Christ. Only how does this look in the everyday? How can we make sure we are serving God rather than just people or church pleasing? Character traits of a people pleaser: Helping others first, before their own needs. Character traits of a server: Choosing to serve and honour God by helping others. These character traits can look similar, only that people pleasing is not a character trait God wants us to gr
How Church can help support families whom have children with autism -
Part 4: The Service
Perhaps the children always stay with you throughout the service each week at your church or perhaps it's once a month for the family service or maybe the children are taken to their groups from the beginning or part way through the service and they are not with their parents/carers at all. Whatever way your church operates at some point in church life they may be expected to be with you during the service and knowing how to help those who naturally struggle with surrounding
40 things to celebrate!
Whilst lots of you are being reflective over the new year and the new possibilities - I will shortly be having a 'big' birthday. Yes this January, I'm turning 40!!! It's not too scary - I think that's because I have planned a themed birthday party to celebrate with family and friends so I've been quite distracted about that, rather than the actual physical number. I have decided to have a 1990's themed party. Whilst I was born in 1979, I have no recollection of the seventi
How church leaders can help support autism parents - Training
I cannot emphasise enough the importance of good quality training in helping your volunteers to have understanding and empathy when looking after children with autism. The children's worker can have a massive impact on whether the child with autism will stay in the church setting. It can impact whether the family will stay at the church, how they feel welcomed or if they will leave and feel rejected. Whilst an overview of autism can help understanding, knowing how this can
Christmas Prep Week 7
We're so close now!!! Just days to go!!! How are we all doing with the preparations? Did you remember all your Christmas dinner, jumper, party days? Is everything wrapped and are the cards posted? and the big question did everything in your grocery shop delivery arrive? Hopefully all the prep is done so you can sit back and watch the festivities unfold! Last Week's Christmas Prep Week 7 Remember all of kids social engagements Pre-make Christmas Dinner food where possible Our
Christmas Prep Week 1
As I had written in my previous blog post, November is our month of thanks giving and our month for Christmas preparation. As you know from previous post, my children have already written their gift wish list. (For a free Gift Wish List printable please click here). So the first week after half term I am busy researching the gift list items to find the best prices. This is what I do; The Budget This is really important, going into debt for Christmas is not what it is about
For those that follow me on Instagram, you will know that November is our thanks giving month. We are not American, so do not celebrate Thanksgiving in the traditional sense that they do but we do use the month of November to give thanks for what we already have in our lives Why? We give thanks to God for what we already have and are blessed with. Christmas and gift giving is around the corner and we like to prepare our hearts for this busy season. We like to remind oursel
Galatians - The Right Way to Live?
Having not grown up as a Christian but discovering Jesus Christ, for myself, in my 20s I have always wondered about how to live as a christian, what is the right way - does the right way even exist? Should I give up on all worldly possessions? is being a stay at home mum the only way to live as a godly wife and mother? Should I only be wearing modest skirts/dresses? Head coverings? No make up or jewellery? As part of my bible reading plan, I have been going through the apostl
Half Term Antics
So after my last post of losing sight of what really matters. This half term has been a week of rest. However, I do find doing completely nothing stressful so at the beginning of the week I listed all the tasks that needed to be completed and what the expectations were for my ASD children. The rest of the time was free for them to spend as they wished. They pretty much wished to spend it on YouTube or gaming. Homework So my eldest had practise test papers to do, as he sits
Our Family Values
I have posted before about how important it is to train children on whats expected from them - we have training at work and life is no different. We cannot expect our children to just 'know' how to behave in different situations, especially if they have autism. I don't have autism and so learning to parent children with autism was completely knew to me. I was not raised in a christian family and so learning to pass on christian values and raise them to know Jesus was also a
The Sunshine Blogger Award
How exciting! A little while back I was nominated for a Sunshine Blogger Award. My very first blogging award. If you're wondering what that is - its an award given by fellow bloggers given in recognition of whose blogs are positive, creative and inspiring. So a big thank you to Nancy Mulligan for nominating me! The award encompasses answering 11 questions from your nominator and nominating 11 other bloggers and giving them a further 11 questions. Its a great way to get to kn
The Flawsome Award
I was nominated for The Flawesome Award by Nancy at MyEverydayChallenges.com. At first I had no idea what it was, but after reading up I'm proud to be nominated and wanted to share my flaws with you. I don't want to project a shiny perfect christian person, where faith seems unobtainable and out of reach because this is not what being a christian is about. I try to be honest and real in my blog posts and I feel this award reflects that! The Flawesome Award: This award was c
How we do morning family devotionals
So fitting in weekday family devotional time before we start the day can be tricky... When my children were younger and at the same primary school, I could organise the children's time more efficiently so when we sat down to breakfast, we could read and discuss a set text devotional, as we all left the house at the same time. We would follow different texts, age dependant and we could pray for each other in the car on the way to school, if things overran . Now they are olde
Routines and Visuals: Part 2
First and Then Card Visual As I have spoken about previously here, we also used a First and Then card. This was a visual to help our children cope with a task they found particularly hard or we would use to try and get the next task done quickly/avoid meltdown. Once they completed the First, they could have the Then (the motivator). The Then side could change as many times as necessary but the First card could not, until it was achieved. This is how we used visuals and ro
How to handle onlookers when your autistic child is struggling?
I just wanted to take my child and leave school, like every other parent was doing in the school playground. Surely that's not too much to ask or desire? However, my child's day did not go to plan so now he was refusing to leave, verbally broadcasting his anger and upset to everyone. The pressure was on - teachers, parents, his peers and other children were looking on - how was I going to handle this? I could feel the judgements and stares 'He's far too old to be behaving li